Balance is something most of struggle to find. Our lives are busier than ever. We have so much being thrown at us everyday and we all feel the pressure to be successful. The pressure can feel overwhelming at times. I know for me no one puts more pressure on me than me. Keeping all the plates spinning can be exhausting. Just to be totally honest with you I am in one of those season of my life right now. For the first time in my life I have stepped out to take a risk with my career. I stepped away from a great position at a great church in March of 2013. I have never had to think a whole lot of where my paycheck would come from my entire adult life. I always have had that figured out until this year. Now I am doing everything I can do to provided for my family. I am working three part-time jobs that all don’t pay very well but are all helping me to accomplish my goals. I have three children that I love so much and want to spend as much time with them as possible. I have an amazing wife who works three to four days a week and is doing all she can to help provide for our family financially. We are working to start Connect Movement and trying to establish our mission. We are trying to find time to invest in people and share our lives. We have a lot going on in our lives and it is a struggle to find balance. Here are a few things that are helping me to do a better job at finding balance:
– Look to God and not others in regard to your priorities. Get up everyday and do what God has called you to do. Don’t let the expectations of others determine your priorities for each day. That does not mean you don’t go to work or be totally irresponsible. But you have to know what God is calling you to do on a big picture perspective and in the daily grind of life.
– Do not let everything else steal time from your family. You are going to cheat someone with your time. Would you rather cheat your job(s) or cheat your family? It is easy to give lots of your time doing good things and miss out on quality time with your family. I really start to feel out of balance when I allow myself to give too much time to everything but my family. If you have a good line of communication with your spouse they will let you know.
– Say no! I am terrible at this. I love helping people. I am wired to serve people and give my gifts and talents away. I love when I can help someone else get ahead but most of the time I end up sacrificing something to help them. I will never stop helping people but I have to get better at saying no.
– Take time to rest. Not just physically taking rest but mentally taking a break from constantly working through your to do list in your head. I may be sitting on the couch watching a movie with my family but in my mind I am making plans and strategizing. When I start feeling out of balance I start feeling mentally overwhelmed and I am not at my best.
I hope these strategies for finding balance in your life are helpful. If you have suggestions share this post on your social media and tag me, Paul Kevetter in your comments. I would love to learn from how you are finding balance.